How do you deal with people who lie about you?

2021.10.28 10:59 gwaanavearant How do you deal with people who lie about you?

I mean in both the personal emotional sense and the practical sense - how do you deal with people who either: outright fabricate lies about you, twist things into half-truths or just generally manipulate a situation to make you look a certain way? Especially if cutting them out of my life isn’t an immediate option. I guess this sometimes includes gaslighting, as the last time this happened to me, I was told that I said things that I vividly remember the gaslighter actually said to me!!
I know personally that every time (not loads of times, but with like 4 individuals, one of which was a pair, it happened repeatedly) I’ve allowed people to get away with it - I bow very easily to pressure like that and am fairly non-confrontational - but it’s starting to eat away at my sanity, even now I’m trying to let it go, but I’m not sure I have the emotional maturity to do that. If I encounter a situation like that again, idk if I’ll be able to keep my cool as it’s a bit of a trigger for me now I guess, even if something was just a white lie I’d be extremely upset.
It just seems to me that when it’s he said/she said or whatever, there’s often no real way to prove what you’re claiming as the truth. Or if it’s a small enough lie that you could disprove, the effort you make to disprove it makes you seem like the weird one for caring, even if it’s a regular thing they pull. And if you engage some manipulative people who are better because they’ve had more practise and naturally think that way, you’re playing into their hands and the whole situation worsens and becomes more nasty and stressful.
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2021.10.28 10:59 19triguy82 Little known fact: Stephen Hawking originally wanted to be a hairdresser, but...

he signed up for cosmology school by mistake.
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2021.10.28 10:59 ajl949 Every time I’ve looked at this sub the last few days

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2021.10.28 10:59 Fernandoom Is there any mod for OpenMW that's equivalent to 'UI Expansion' ?

Hey all, I've switched to OpenMW recently in my attempt to play Morrowind again and while I don't miss all that much the fancy lighting script mods and so on I'm really hurting over not having UI Expansion anymore, is there any mod equivalent to it for OpenMW?
I'm aware many features of it are already baked in OpenMW if you wish to activate them, such as marking owned items, and being able to search inventory/spell lists per name, but I really miss how the UI was laid out in it, particularly the training screen.
(While I'm asking if anyone has more graphics/QoL improvement mods for OpenMW I'd be glad to hear them, I'm just using the I Heart Vanilla modpack so far)
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2021.10.28 10:59 Daikon-Flimsy This is one isn't it

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2021.10.28 10:59 Old-Baby7201 Que sad

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2021.10.28 10:59 Swimming_Minimum6512 Catina860 loves BBC

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2021.10.28 10:59 captcha_trampstamp He’s my wizard cat- a full 17 pounds of mush.

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2021.10.28 10:59 DennisHatzis I Live Alone episodes with Kim Chungjae

I was going through the ILA wiki page and it says that he's been in these episodes: 220-221, 264-265, 272-273, 283-284, 295-296, 300-301, 309, 317, 396
but I only managed to find him in episodes 300/301 and 317
309 doens't seem to be uploaded anywhere (I always go by the date, never by the number) and it looks like every website skipped this episode for some reason.
And the rest of the dates, he just wasn't in the episode at all.
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2021.10.28 10:59 CJdhead Trigeminal dysphoria

I’ve suffered with some symptoms for a few years:
Headaches Facial pain Eye pain Neck and shoulder pain
I’ve had imaging done on my head and neck but all has come back clear.
I’ve had many optometrist appointments, and have been assured my prescription is correct. But I have varying prism from close up - far away. I’ve been wearing my glasses for distance to do close up work.
Is it possible that this could be causing my symptoms?
Also when I don’t wear my glasses I do get a reduction in symptoms, does this mean that it’s because the prism is not there… or because my brain is ignoring the image from my right eye (the weaker one). Thus my eyes are not having to work hard to align for binocular vision.
I’ve been told I do not have amblyopia, but my right eye is a lot weaker than my left. And when I close the stronger eye my vision still seems as if I’m looking out the closed eye but the image from my weak eye is being superimposed.
Any input would be appreciated
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2021.10.28 10:58 mysticalmoose012 Physics Courses For Pre-Meds

Does anyone have suggestions on physics courses that can be used for the pre-med requirement? I transferred AP Physics C (both) so I need one lecture course.
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2021.10.28 10:58 Vig_Big 288일_좋아하는 운동 경기

운동 경기를 별로 안 좋아하지만 야구를 보기보다 하기를 좋아한다. 보는 것이 지루한 데다가 흥미진진하지 않다고 생각한다. 야구를 하면 더 간단하게 할 수 있는데 규칙이 많아서 보는 것이 복잡해질 수 있다.
(오늘 많이 바빠서 간단하게 쓸 수밖에 없다. 내일 더 길게 쓸 것 같다.)
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2021.10.28 10:58 SnooBooks5261 This is big in case you missed it. uhhhhh guys this is HUGE.. DeFi Ecosystem.. now tell me if $1 is impossible. 💎🙌

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2021.10.28 10:58 diabolical_diabetic [Lamborghini huracan] and [rolls Royce dawn]

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2021.10.28 10:58 DifficultAd7382 Archaeologists Discover 1,800-Year-Old Teotihuacan-Style Citadel in Tikal

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2021.10.28 10:58 GoulashComic [OC] Goulash by D. S. Ullery 10/28/21

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2021.10.28 10:58 Sad_Trouble7482 Guy is giving me mixed signals!!

Me (18F) and my friend have been hanging with my cousins and their friends, and recently i’ve started to develop feelings for my cousins friend (21M). We live in small towns about 20-30 minutes away from eachother, but his family owns a restaurant in my town. I met him in March 2018 on a family vacation where my older cousin brought him around. I had a crush on him then, but never acted on it because he was older. We only ever really hung out on occasion, when he would follow my cousin places, so eventually, the crush I had went away. Recently, in September, me and my friends started hanging out with him and his friends as i’ve stated before. He’s the type to have alot of sex, and he doesn’t date, while i’m a virgin, who has never had a boyfriend. However, he is genuinely a good person. He helps out me & all of our friends when we need it and is always nothing but respectful & kind to me. He is hilarious, sweet and very charming, with a big heart. When we hang out with our friends, he flirts, calls me babe/his girl, we make eye contact & he looks at me a certain way where he kind of smiles and rolls his eyes as he looks away. We have sleepovers, where we sleep next to eachother, and we’re literally touching bodies, but our hands are kept to ourselves. My best friend always catches him staring at me as well. I have this signature thing where I wear my sunglasses on the top of my head all the time, and he always just takes them off & steals them jokingly. There was a night where we got totally blasted, and then we were making out practically all night. On this night, my friend was talking to him about me & he was saying that he didn’t know why our friends kept asking why they thought he liked me & that he didn’t, however, my friend didn’t even bring up me liking him or him liking me. Then, we made out, on several occasions. I was sent to bed, and so was he. But nobody recalls how we got up there. I woke up with his jacket on. We never brought up that night to eachother, but I doubt he remembers. I had only remembered we kissed once, but all my friends and cousins told me exactly how many times. Also, I can’t remember exactly what was said before, but I told him I was a virgin and he replied with, “Oh shit, I can’t do that to you.” A few nights after that, we all went to his house to party, and I was running two hours late because I was busy with family things & I also had to get ready. I got there, and another girl arrived, which he was all over. They were kissing, they were hugging, and disappearing. I couldn’t help but be furious & jealous. I stopped talking to him for a good week or two. He started to get serious about this girl, & he let her stay at his house for two weeks, paid for her gas, car, food, alcohol & basically just supported her because she lost her job. She cheated on him and he was totally hurt by it. There was a halloween party at his house last Saturday, which was the first time we saw eachother since I was mad at him, btw, he knew I was mad at him and didn’t say anything to me, at all. I could tell he was hurting. He was sad, he kept disappearing and there was once where I accidentally walked into his room and he was just sitting on his floor, and he just looked upset. But, before I walked in on him, I pulled him to the side where nobody could see, and I said, “Are you talking to anybody?” he says, “No. Not right now, why?” and I ask him, “Well, do you want to kiss me?”. He was very hesitant & said, “But you’re a virgin, right?” to which I replied, “I asked you to kiss me, not fuck me.” And then he just told me he’d find me later. I told him I didn’t want to do it after that. The next day, he calls me and my friend and he’s flirting again. Which obviously leaves me very confused. I like him, alot. But I don’t know what i’m doing here. We don’t talk all the time, but we’re hanging out & drinking every week. Also, if you couldn’t tell, i’m new to the whole boy thing.
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2021.10.28 10:58 Broken-Soul-0 .

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2021.10.28 10:58 ykilu2009 TWLO 330 Puts on both Schwab/Robinhood +~350k

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2021.10.28 10:58 pizzaking95 Maybe I am an invisible man

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2021.10.28 10:58 Namtcarf312 I can’t tell if this girl is into me or not?

I am a college freshman and I met this girl that was in a school group chat on Instagram. She requested to follow me so I followed her back and I noticed that she was pretty cute and she had her snap in her bio so I added her. She added me back and we snapped back and forth for about 2 weeks. At this point we have never talked it’s just been snaps with no caption. Out of the blue I ask her if she wants to meet up to get lunch or something. She responds with a time that works with me and we go to a place to get boba tea. When we were hanging out I asked for her phone number. Then a week later I ask her to get lunch at the dining hall but she offers that we should get smoothies instead which I was fine with. We text a decent amount but it’s mostly about school. I did compliment her outfit and said it was cute and she her response was “aww thank you, I made sure I wore a cute outfit today” I’m really bad at picking up signs and I don’t want to shoot my shot unless I assume that she likes me.
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2021.10.28 10:58 Valdiya Cute Shino.....wishing you all a Happy Halloween😍

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2021.10.28 10:58 Lake-Queasy First time memer. Be kind.

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2021.10.28 10:58 The_GreatGecko I need of some inspiration

I'm a new smith with not much experience and everytime I work on a project to learn, I feel like I always hit something that prevents me from continuing. First it was my hammer, then anvil, and now a broken anvil stand. Now I have almost 0 drive to go to my shop and work on something. Anyone have ways to get through this?
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2021.10.28 10:58 RugbyGareth_ Caelan Doris being very honest about his concussion troubles earlier this year.

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